The Most Important Thing To Look Before Getting Into A Relationship

I recently talked with a couple of friends about dating and finding a husband. Let's be honest, no one is perfect, everybody has flaws. However, there is one thing you must never compromise. That is your faith and values.

The most important thing to look for before you date or marry someone is their spiritual life. Is he saved? Is he living a life that honors God? Does he give his time and life to God? Is he spiritually mature? If not, why move forward in the relationship, especially if he won't change.

If he is not saved and does not prioritize God, it's unlikely he could lead you spiritually. As women, we sometimes believe we can help them change, and guide them spiritually. As sweet as that may seem, we cannot change anyone. And it should not be the woman's job to lead the man spiritually. That is the man's job, to be the leader spiritually, and be the head of the household.

Maybe you're thinking of dating the guy you're talking to right now. Or maybe you're thinking of marrying this guy. But think through this first: Is he saved? Does he love and follow God? If not, he's not ready either, and you're just going to end up heartbroken in the end, or face hardship down the road. With the divorce rate being so high, I would be very careful to choose a partner who shares my values, faith, and long-term vision for marriage.

2 Corinthians 6:14 says, "Do not be yoked together with unbelievers," which means do not get into a relationship with unbelievers! When looking for a partner, make sure they share the same faith, doctrine, beliefs, and values. That way, you can have a relationship that honors God and glorify God.

Just because they go to church does not really make them a Christian. Ask him about the gospel. Ask him to share his salvation story with you. I'm just gonna say it, if he is not saved, then don't get into a relationship with him. Wait. You deserve someone who can love you the way Jesus loves you. Who can lead you spiritually and support you emotionally. That is more important than good looks or financial support.

Ultimately, pray, pray, pray before you date or decide to say yes to him. May the Holy Spirit guide you and help you discern in your relationship.